Rant/Vent.....

[ngt]

I gotta get this off of my chest so I can relax this weekend and everyone has gone out already....so, here goes.

One of my kid's parents are lying to me and sneaking around school doing shit behind my back that they tell me they won't do. Nothing that will hurt me or anything, but it's going to hurt their kid. I won't give up on a kid.

I told them their daughter had to go to the after school program if they wanted her to be ready for the second grade. So, they pull her out the last two weeks before christmas. I found out THE LAST DAY and went to talk to them. They say..."oh yeah, she'll be in everyday after vacation." I talked to the lady that runs the first grade class in the after school program (Sonoma Serves..or something like that) and she says she's been getting pulled out. They send the older brother inside to lie and get her out of there, as he gets out about 45 minutes after her. But, they stand outside while he does it.

So, I am like "wow" I didn't know that. I'll look into it. I walk out and go to the office to drop something off and hey....there they are walking past the office. They say hi and turn around the corner like they are going home without her. (the reason they take her out is that they are to lazy to walk a half a block back to get her at 5:30...2 hours later). I saw them kinda stop though...not walking too far. So, I dropped my papers off in the office and what do you know??? When I come out they are walking towards the after school program. WTF???? So, I put my stuff in the car and walk over there. They are sending the brother in there to get her. He comes out and looks at me.."She said her stomach hurt because of something she ate in the program"...I am like Fuck you kid!!! don't lie to me...LOL!!! at least in my head. I said, "she needs to stay in here, it's important if she want to go to the second grade." I had just said the same thing in more detail to the dad outside. The kid is all happy inside waving goodbye etc...

When she gets outside and sees me...BAM....instant shame and the tears are running. The dad tells her in spanish she needs to go back. She starts crying more. I walk up to her and say "look, if you want to be with your friends next year, you need to keep going to this class and work much harder." She holds her stomach and starts crying. I say "Don't hold your stomach, you were just fine in there a second ago until you saw me and knew you were doing something wrong." The brother says what I say to the dad and they say something to her...but they all ended up leaving anyways....saying "thank you" to me ???

FUCK THEM!!I am so mad about this I can't even think straight! I bust my ass to get this kid special help and they lie and sneak around acting like fuckin retards ruining their kids life. She's not a bright kid either. (not trying to be mean, it's the truth) On top of being the lowest kid in my class, she's lazy as shit. This kid is on track to clean grease traps at Jack in the Box for the rest of her life.

All of this...and I still set up another in-school pull out program for this girl. I won't give up on a kid. If they send her on to 2nd grade (parents ALWAYS have the last say) at least nobody can say I didn't try. I don't know what else to do. I would have never thought a parent would be so selfish. I don't even want to look at them anymore.

well....thanks for reading :) , if you got through that, lol

Needed to vent :SM17

[DarthArcturus]

damn NGT thats a shame. You know she might not be the brightest but I bet the family causes her not to perform as well as she could in school. Fuck don't these people want their kids to have better lives then them!?

[shinjirod]

i had a prolem like that when i was teaching. in the end, people trip themselves and fail, even when everybody around might try to help.

I think its great and brave you dont give up. Hopefully itll payoff. But its so sad to know, that evne with the best of your efforts, sometimes theyre for nothing.

sucked so bad when it happened to me.

[DarthArcturus]

btw my mom has been a pre school through 2nd grade teacher at various places. She has a lot of stories of idiot parents.

[MAD.MANTIS]

The bottom line is that parents need to SUPPORT their kids' teachers...and work WITH them. It's a team effort. I could go on and on but it's after 2am :( Maybe I'll add more tomorrow.

[Outlawd19]

i think you should threaten to call immigration on them if they dont let their daughter stay in the afterschool program.


seriously though, thats pretty fucked up of her parents. my sister is a teacher. but she teaches deaf children. you should here the stories she tells about some of their parents. some really fucked up shit man, i mean really fucked up shit.

[ngt]

For the first time I have a "hard of hearing" student in my class. Not deaf, but pretty bad with two hearing aides. We got him like 4-5 different services and his mom was crying while thanking us.....out of just being happy people are making the effort to help her son. That's a parent that cares...

This girl's parents couldn't care less about how their daughter does in school. They told me that they tried to keep her in kinder but the teacher wouldn't let them. It's the room next to mine and I am friends with that teacher. We talk all of the time and she told me she was fighting to keep the kid in kinder but the parents sent her on. They just look me right in the face and lie.

The girl may not be the brightest, but if the parents gave her any type of support or any reason to think that school is important, imo, she'd be fine. BUT.....if they send her on to second grade after acting this way through kinder and first, she's going to be so lost for the rest of grade school.

When kids come from kinder to first, they should know all of their letter names and sounds, as well as their numbers through 30. She came in with 3 letter sounds and about 10 names...with no numbers. She now knows all of that stuff, but the rest of the class is reading books...some even chapter books already. It will be like that for the rest of grade school with parents like this. She'll always be behind. Holding a kid back isn't always a bad thing, but the parents have to care enough to see that. So many people think it means their kid is stupid, but some kids just need another year for the basics. It should have been her being in kinder again this year.

[Bruhaha69]

Scumbags. If she kept goin this way, they sound like the kind of parents who'd sign the paper work for her to drop out of school when she's old enough. That really is a selfish thing to do. The kid doesn't know any better. if she did, she wouldn't need parents.

[jp]

Damn... thats really messed up man. Those parents are really screwing her over. :disgust:

[DarthArcturus]

my parents held me back in 1st grade :O Its kinda of embarrassing to say but hey I've turned out alright :D

[Newport420]

I meant to respond to this when I first read it but became distracted.

I taught for awhile and always did my best to keep the bar high so to speak for kids as I felt that K-12 was far too lax on students. Despite being hard on students I did my best to not only teach but mentor etc.

These parents make me ill. Absolute shame, yet I commend you NGT on doing all that you have and no doubt will int he future. Its teachers like you that will eventually save the world. Really, I'm quite serious.